LughLlaw wrote:
I only used the trap once. The other times I approached players, and depending on the area I found them in requested a sum of gold as an "out" (Usually anywhere from 50-500 gold. Nothing huge.)
I believe that you can't offer an actual physical monetary loss as an out (although in the RP you can). Shoot them a tell after the demand for gold and say that they don't actually have to give you gold, but to RP that they are.
Thus you're giving them the "shameful" route to back out of a potential PvP situation without any actual loss incurred to their character. If you end up having to kill them, then just RP that you end up scouring their corpse to find the gold you were looking for (or look over their body and ask in a tell if they have any amulet of Lolth or perhaps something else of religious or sentimental value that may annoy them if was stolen - thus giving them a means to RP with you later down the track in retrieving said object).