Not sure about the rest, but here is the list for
Bendir Dale. It is public, in a public forum, and while I for one try to give a heads up and warning, not all of us are as forgiving.
Furthermore: Do not metagame NPC guards. If your toon would not be allowed in to Cordor, or Bendir Dale, (possibly shot on sight in) , or any other server center, then it falls to you, as a player, to request DM assistance as you are trying to fool the guards.