Budly, to what you say... I sometimes feel the same way. Ironically, every time it's not me posting something like this, but someone else, I just think "ok, moving on". (This is from someone who doesn't have anything to do with the outburst) I mean, there's not too much you can post about it. There's pretty much two options, either hold a grudge, or forgive the person, and either way, most people wouldn't write anything as a response. At least I wouldn't.
That said, there's always the problem that unanswered posts can feel like being ignored, like everyone hates you now, and everyone's out to get you.
I still remember one person, a huge part of the community had bumps with his troll-y personality. And I sent him a PM, basically saying how I dislike him. That felt derpy. I mean, I basically told him I thought he was a trolling jerk. Turns out though, after talking to him a bit, he was actually a pretty nice player, even if we didn't always agree on everything. A few other times, I bumped heads with some other people, and talked it out, either in PMs or through tells in game.
Personally, I feel like there's always a small problem: Either you go with a public post, which feels impersonal, and usually isn't answered, or you just apologise to one or two people in a PM, which... well, personally, outbursts tend to hit more people than you can send a PM to. Everyone who reads it tends to take something away from it. There's a few times I didn't like someone, just because they were a jerk to some other people on here. Maybe they apologised, but I didn't hear of it, so I still had my grudge...
And to vhunelar, I'm sorry to disrail this topic a bit, but it's a thing I struggle with occasionally, and apparently I'm not the only one, (based on what Budly said) so I kind of wanted to get this out.
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